Sorry been too bussy, yes on a proof inkjet I would normally go Absolute. In Apogee you do have an extra option that may be worth noting and it is the link exceptions. In Apogee you also have the Closed loop workflow for the proofer, to optimise the proofer rendering of a printer profile.
There is also the possibility to have profile link exceptions (so that pure colours are not managed other than dotgain compensated), You also have the option to treat CMYK as relative and Spot colours as Absolute if you like.
I would use Absolute since it is the more correct, but there have been instances where I have switched to relative because there were large areas of white, and that customer was very sensitive to the tone that was laid down in the paper. There is one more reason I may want to use relative, and that is when I have alot of images cut out to white, and I want to make sure the white is white (and not boxes of 1-2% background dither) If you use absolute on these you will have a much harder time determining if there is 1-2% boxes, because colometrically the 1% tone and the paper white simulation might be visually the same (the paper can only be made darker when matching white point)
So I would back previous posts on the theory, but in reality, well some instances you will have to decide what is it you want from the proof: the lowest delta E (most of the time the proof and the printed product will not be viewed at the same time) or do you want to catch production pitfalls such as close to zero boxes that will definately be uggly in print.